Self Esteem Articles.
Overcoming Low Self Esteem.
Our self-image and thus the foundations of our self esteem began to take shape a long time ago and was well established by the time you reached the age of 7.
When we look at overcoming low self esteem, first of all we should take a long hard look at where our self esteem might tem from.
By the age of 7 years old most people have received and taken on board 1000’s negative are restrictive comments: 'Don't do that', 'No you can't', 'Who do you think you are?' 'You'll never make anything of yourself,' and so on.
Most of these were probably needed at the time to check behaviour and for safty reason, crossing the road etc.
But some of these reprimands to which adults attach little importance, can affect a child deeply and the accumulated effect can be devastating to their self esteem.
Most of us experienced plenty of this as a child and many children, being very resilient, shake it off and learn by it. But at the same time some of it will inevitable stick. Very few young people reach adulthood without having their confidence dented in some way.
Understanding this and how it might be at the roots of low self esteem in adult life can help in overcoming low self esteem.
There is an aspect of the mind which can become stuck and fixated upon the negative….playing the same old circumstances over and over again….like a stuck record.
We can of course consider the positive in an attempt to ought weigh the negative…
When were your parents or guardians most proud of you?
What are you most proud of from your childhood achievements?
Recall a time you where praised?
Recall times when you were happy as a child?
Overcoming low self esteem is about re-evaluating some of the experiences you might have had.
And overcoming own self esteem also includes forgiving those who you feel have wronged you.
These elements of overcoming low self esteem are covered in detail in The Complete Self esteem Workbook.
The above is food for thought….but please do not think too critically……and if you currently suffer from low self esteem and wish to overcome it….let me tell you this……..Low self esteem is a solvable problem….it can be overcome….
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