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Self Esteem Barriers
It is possible to improve your self esteem.
Self esteem can be improved, there is no doubt about that, but there are a number of symptoms of low self esteem which prevent you from getting started and actually making those improvements.
1. When self esteem is low is it very difficult to see a way out.
When your self esteem is low it tends to reflect in the attitude you have towards just about everything in your life. It brings with it a negative attitude which actually prevents you from taking up any solution.
It looks like a catch 22. The low self esteem is that thing that prevents one from finding a solution to low self esteem. This is not uncommon and is one of the main reasons why people with low self esteem do not seek help.
It’s a bit like trying to tell someone who is in pain that the pain will pass, underneath it all they know it will, but it is very difficult to imagine that while the pain is present.
It takes a leap of faith to some degree to break out of that catch 22 and start making real improvements.
Beyond low self esteem high self esteem does exist and it most definitely can be improved no matter how difficult or impossible that might look right now.
2. A lot of people think that low self esteem came about because of things that happened to them in their lives.
That can be true, but often I have heard people say “I know why I feel like this” and then go on to describe some life event which left them feeling low and from which they never recovered.
In my experience 9 times out of 10 the person was looking at the wrong thing.
If you get the right reason the problem will vanish. I know that that might sound a little strange, but if you look it over you find that it is true.
All too often a person will talk and talk about the reasons for their condition but no change or improvement will take place. That is because they are looking in the wrong place.
When you have lost your keys, you have a problem. That problem will vanish as soon as you find them. If you think you left them in the kitchen when you actually left them in the hall that problem will never solve if you insist upon only ever looking in the kitchen. It is actually the fixed idea of them being in the kitchen which prevents the problem from solving.
3. It can be very difficult to get started on new things when your self esteem is low.
Another one of the inherent things about low self esteem is that anyone who is suffering from it will also find it more and more difficult to motivate themselves.
But to get through something like low self esteem and to start making real improvements it is going to take extra motivation, not less. You are going to have to change and that is a new start in itself, you are also going to have to get more information about the actual causes and cures for low self esteem and you are going to have to make a determined effort to get through it.
All of that is going to have to start somewhere, and if the answer is to start it tomorrow, realize that that is the very thing I am talking about here.
With low self esteem it is easy to find a reason not to do something, there comes a point when that attitude has to change and will only change when you decide to change it and then follow through.
4. Low self esteem and low confidence go hand in hand and lead to an overall feeling that nothing can be done.
When confidence is low, confidence in a solution is also low. That does not mean that the solution is no good, it just means that the person has no confidence in it. But the reason that they have no confidence in it is simply because their confidence is low.
All of these things add up to no improvement, no forward progress and no way out.
My overall point is that there is a way out, there is a way forwards and there is improvement to be had, but the symptoms of low self esteem are the main barriers to improving self esteem.
To make progress and improve your low self esteem you have to momentarily overcome those barriers and take that leap of faith and get started with the solution.
Yes, you might not see a way out.
Yes, you might think that you are doing the wrong thing.
Yes, you might want to think about it.
Yes, you might already know why your self esteem is low.
But do any of those things solve the problem?
There is a solution to low self esteem, it is not difficult to get started, thousands of people have used it already and have had great results, it does not cost a lot of money and it does not take a long time to do.
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