Self Esteem Articles.
Self Esteem Exercises.
There are countless self esteem exercises on the net that will tell you to, “learn how to love yourself”, “look at the good points” and “don’t be so hard on yourself".
Now, this is all good advice………….but………. both you and I know that if we could do that and handle our self esteem issues, then self esteem would not be the formidable problem that it is.
I believe that we have to take a much more fundamental approach.
The above advices will handle the symptoms of low self esteem and if you persist with them, will undoubtedly provide you with some relief, but when one already has low self esteem, to follow the above with any sincerity is no easy task.
I have mentioned elsewhere that low self esteem stems from fixed frames of mind, and that to change a fixed frame of mind we have to take afresh and revolutionary approach.
The self esteem exercises I am going to give you to do here are all based upon the very successful principles I have outlined in all of my self esteem booklets and courses.
This is a new approach to the problem and it tackles the fundamental reasons behind low self esteem. These self esteem exercises in themselves may seem a little strange to you and may seem like they have nothing to do with the development of high self esteem, all I ask is that you try them. If you continue with them long enough you will see that the fixed frames of mind, which your low self esteem is build upon, will start to shatter. Then you will find that those fixed frames of mind were in truth, the only things keeping your self esteem low. You will then find no need to “learn how to love yourself”, “look at the good points” and “not be so hard on yourself”. You will do all of those things and more quite naturally.
Self Esteem Exercise No 1.
This self esteem exercise sounds far too simple to be effective. A lot of people have a surprising difficulty with it.
You might want to go somewhere private to do it.
The only other thing I want to say about it is that you should continue it until you realize something positive about yourself. If you have to force it a bit to begin with that’s okay, just keep with it.
The first exercise is this:
Start laughing.
Now, by that I don’t mean find something to laugh about, I don’t mean find something funny, or think about something funny or anything like that.
Simply start laughing with no reason.
Then continue laughing.
Keep it up until you realize something positive about yourself and then do it again tomorrow and the next day and that next day and so on.
You might have read this and think that I am kidding you, but I am not…and you will only ever get to see the results of this by doing it.
Self Esteem Exercise No. 2.
This next self esteem exercise may also seem a little strange until you try it.
You have to do this out outside, and preferable somewhere where you have an unrestricted view away into the distance.
Again, this exercise needs to be continued until you have a positive realization about yourself which will happen if you continue it long enough.
Go to a place where you feel comfortable and will not be disturbed, which has a good open panoramic view.
Look at something small.
Look at something big.
Look at something near.
Look at something far.
Look at something interesting.
That’s it. Now, when I say look I mean take a look at something and concentrate upon it for about 2 – 3 seconds and then do the same with the next part of the exercise.
You can look at different things each time or the same thing each time, that does not really matter, the thing that matters is that you do it enough times.
Enough times is the amount of times it takes for you to have a positive realization about yourself.
Don’t force it and don’t look for a realization, because if you do that then you are no longer doing the exercise. Just continue doing the exercise and the results will come totally unprompted.
Try this exercise, it is very subtle but very deep reaching.
Self Esteem Exercise No. 3.
For this next self esteem exercise we are going to use your imagination and a technique called creative visualization. This is a very simple technique and simply involves you imaging things and then doing something with what you have imagined. If you can get a good picture in your minds eye then you can do creative visualization.
I want you to invent or imagine a person (not you) with very low self esteem, get an image of a person in your minds eye of someone who has no self esteem. This does not have to be anyone you know, just make someone up.
If you do not get a good clear picture of a person, imagine a doll or a dummy or something like that, the main thing is that you get a picture of something which has no self esteem.
Be aware of the low self esteem in the person or doll that you have created in your mind. Now, imagine this person to be standing our in front of you and remain very aware of the low self esteem in your created person.
Next, make your creation move towards you until it is superimposed over your body, Keep it there for a moment and then move it off and back out in front of yourself.
Repeat it many times. Out in front of yourself, pull it toward you and superimpose it, then move it back off, and then do it again and again, many times.
At some point something will occur to you, you will realize something about yourself. At that point make the person you have created disappear and do it all again the next day.
If you try to second guess or figure out what these exercises will do, or what they are getting at, and if that puts you off from doing them, realize that you will never get the real realizations which doing them will bring about. These self esteem exercises are not about trying to figure anything out, they are to do. Doing them will help you.
The self esteem exercises above are designed to replace the pep talk, they will not get down to the roots of your self esteem.
To do that we need to take a muck more inclusive and altogether deeper approach to the problem.
To completely handle the cause and symptoms of low self esteem you need to do the full course which is contained in “The Complete Self-Esteem Workbook”.
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